On Knowing Worth for a While

by Zinga Hart

They called it a melting pot, as if unity were a heat that could fuse strangers into sameness. But what they built was a crucible — an alchemical experiment without consent.

Into the pot went gold and iron, salt and bone, gospel and grief. They stirred it with manifest destiny and called it progress. But some metals don’t melt. Some remember their divine structure. Gold resists corrosion; iron remembers its chain.

In America’s version of alchemy, assimilation became the price of access. “Melt down,” they said, “and you’ll rise again as one.” But what if your soul’s chemistry was never meant to liquefy? What if your light — black, blue, and golden all at once — wasn’t meant to dissolve, but to refract?

That’s the truth hidden in the shimmer of moonlight, the same glint the poet Sergio Roper caught when he wrote:

> In the moonlight, black boys turn blue,
but we can also be golden too.



The melting pot promised harmony through heat. The mirror promises harmony through recognition. One burns difference away; the other reflects it into art.

Maybe that’s what Dante understood when he walked through hell without lineage or law to bind him — he wasn’t melting, he was witnessing. He passed through the inferno not as one purified by fire, but as one who could name the flames.

America’s myth was never about freedom — it was about fusion.
But the next evolution isn’t to melt. It’s to gleam.

We are the new alloy — not blended, but balanced.
Not molten, but mirrored.
Not white-hot, but golden.

They Tried to Sell Me Salvation

A Four-Part Fiction

There I was in a Dollar Tree, not even trying to be cute. In fact, I was trying to figure out if I could grab lunch for less than two dollars and get back to my desk before my boss noticed I was gone for my 15-minute break.

Yet, he stopped me at the aisle’s end-cap. A whiff of fragrance hit my nose and I couldn’t tell if it was him or if a Lavender Fabuloso bottle leaked open somewhere.

This man was clearly from out of town. His unbuttoned white and gold Hawaiian shirt hung open, like this wasn’t mid-March in the Midwest and could blizzard or blaze in the blink of an eye.

I guess he had less worries at the time. 

What he was worried about at the moment was blocking my path.

“Hey,” it was hard to tell his age. He dressed like a Miami lover-boy, but there was something in his eyes. Something that read, he’s used to living.

I pause, unusually bemused by the moment,

“What’s up”

“How much?” 

Oh, just an empty offer.

I roll my eyes and throw out a ridiculous hurdle. He asks for my phone number.

Maybe it was the flicker of the dying fluorescent light, the fog of Fabuloso or that he seemed so willing so that I took him up on the offer and gave him phone number.

Box of oatmeal, peanut butter, tea.

Should hold me over for a few breakfasts in the cubicle.

Me and the dollar tree worker filled the air with enjoyable silence, just the beeps of efficiency slicing every second or so. Her hands manicured and bejeweled to a tee. The designs resembled a scene from Moana, but one hand outlined the burning volcano goddess and the other the joyful green one.

“Nice nails”.  I shared near the end of exchange.

She smiled, “Thank you darling, Receipt?”

“No thanks,” I grabbed the bag and breezed to the door, “Have a good one”

The bell jingling, like a prophecy on clearance, behind me.

6 PM 

When I finally hit the safety of homebase, his text startled me.

[Random Number] Were you still interested?

Since I hadn’t touched my back-up number in years, I knew exactly who it would be. 

[Me] And who could this be? 

[Random Number] King Midas baby. 

I laughed out loud. He might actually get a date for that one. 

[Me] : Ha! Careful what you manifest, Midas.
[Random Number] : You say that it’s not already happening.

I stared at the screen until the typing dots disappeared.

Maybe the universe really did keep receipts.

He offered to manifest a flight and had a date, time, and location in mind…his family was throwing a weekend jubilee near Niagara Falls. 

[King Midas]: I’d love for the chance to show you a good time. 

This guy seemed legit, but come on, flirtation could only get a man so far. 

[Me] Well what’s your real name then? 

[King Midas] Sage Love. Google me.

[Me] Maybe I will 😏

I tossed the phone aside and got back to the real carnival, cooking from the cupboards. Whether it was love or business. I could be the maiden and the maverick.

At work the next day, I did look him up.

Sage Love, a New York State heir tied to the oil magnates of the early industrial age. 

His Linkedin Read: Sage Love, 29, venture-capital mystic, founder of The Garden Collective.

I clicked through headlines and family trees. Sage Love—the kind of name you’d think came from a self-help guru, not a trust fund. His grandfather patented an industrial dye that once colored half the uniforms in World War II. His father “pivoted” to pharmaceuticals when peace broke out. Their estate funded one of those “legacy fellowships” for the humanities—how poetic.

It had been a while since I had dinner with destiny. I decided to let my thoughts dwell on the decision, real world work called after all.  

It was 2pm, I could tell because that’s when the sun could directly beam into the iris of my eyes.

A notification. 

$500 cash app deposit to my phone number from him, with a note (You still coming?)

I ♥️ it.

At least he had integrity, always a green flag to me. 

After 15 minutes, he follows up:

  • [King Midas] Well mademoiselle?
  • [Me] Hmm…how could I impose your honor? 😘

Curiosity, cash, and cosmic boredom are a dangerous cocktail.

The invitation came with a hotel confirmation and a QR code shaped like a heart.

Another notification.

Cashapp: $500.
Note: “For your trouble—or your outfit.”

I stared at the notification like it was a miracle or a minor miracle scam.

Either way, I screenshotted it. Every goddess deserves a stipend.

A follow up text read:

The Love Ball – a night of glamour, grace, and green energy.

It felt like a startup pitch deck disguised as a masquerade.

By Friday afternoon, the calendar reminder hit like divine comedy

“ The Love Ball – Formal Attire.”

Apparently, Sage’s family hosted it every spring—a benefit for environmental restoration projects, complete with champagne flutes, silent auctions, and the occasional senator pretending to compost.

I told myself it was networking.

Building social connections.

A chance to see what old money did with with a new generation. 

He’d already handled everything—flight, hotel, itinerary—like a man who believed logistics were love languages. At the airport, I found I had a window seat, again the sun beamed directly in my face, but this time it felt, like maybe fool’s gold could still matter.

I laughed to myself: manifestation really does have range.

There I was, in the limo headed to his estate. Niagara Falls, the world’s hydroelectric hooker of early industrial extraction by design. Where companies pumped and dumped by-products into canals and abandoned quarries. It was supposed to be a model community powered by clean hydro energy. 

When the project collapsed in 1910, leaving an empty canal—perfect for cheap waste storage.

Turns out Sage was only related to The town of Love Canal by marriage. His family strictly supported a sustainable energy vision now. I watched the factories blur by, and thinking about the love stories and landfills that fill entangle our timeline.

His estate was pristine though.

Up a hill and a mile off the road ,his home lived up to the name The Garden Collective. The lobby to the atrium glittered with sequins and legacy wealth—every step popped with a color of positive affirmation.

And there he was.

Gold-chain dripping, Like the son of Midas, waiting at the edge of  Eden. He smiled and waved for me to meet him at the top of the stairs.

“So glad you could make it,” He grabbed my hand and led me to a near-by bedroom.

“Look mister, we did NOT agree on that,” I stake that claim early.

At first he looked positively perplexed, then he offered a wry chuckle, “I got you some options for dinner.” 

He swung open the door to reveal a rack of clothes, various glitter dressed in shades of green. 

“I had some last minute funders show up, so the theme changed” 

I cocked an eye-brow. 

“Your outfit is magnificent of course,” his eyes-traced my body up-and-down, “we are just switching to green.” 

Being I chose black, I obliged to his offer to play Barbie.

“Meet me in the garden, when you’re done”

The dresses were exceptional, what I thought was a sequence was actually the finest pattens of beading woven into the dress. The designs seemed to blend and blur, but if I could finger on it, it seemed familiar. 

I chose a low-cut, high-cut barely there feather dress that would have made Josephine Baker jealous . The garden held a greenhouse that had a table set for an intimate affair. From the outside the greenhouse showed several people conversing informally. Yet, when I stepped in it was if, no one could see the outside after stepping in.

The walls were darkened and covered with fluorescent flowers.

The flowers made the air feel heavy which could best described as the fragrance of no smell at all. My finger couldn’t help to reach out to see what the flower was. Before I got too close, the heat of the petal frizzled near my skin. 

“You like that” Sage walked up behind me.

His breath carried that synthetic sweetness that made my neck hairs frizzle like the petals.

The flowers are embedded in black mirror panels to capture maximum energy while filtering out every trace of scent,” he explained, still grinning. “We get full use—as long as we pay the gardeners.”

Then I realized he wasn’t talking to me anymore; he was talking to the room.

The Phoenix Flower—his miracle—could be grown, harvested, and monetized. A bit of lipstick on the good ol’ DNA. He sold it like salvation in a bottle: purity with quarterly returns.

The mirrored walls lifted, petals glinting into a full-force pitch deck. Applause followed—sharp, metallic, palms hitting palms like rainfall on sheet metal. Sage smiled, all teeth and stock options.

Change takes courage, he said. I nodded, unsure which kind of courage this change needed.

The night switched to after-hours, all glitter; no glow.

Then Sage appeared—tailored, timed, and too precise, like he’d practiced the moment in a mirror that clapped back. He moved through the crowd the way water finds a drain: smooth, silent, inevitable.

His smile was calculated to the millimeter—warm enough for photos, cool enough for control. When a guest brushed his arm, he adjusted his cufflink before locking eyes with me.

“I knew you’d fit my purpose just right,” he said.

“Purpose or prop?” I asked.

He didn’t flinch; just glanced at his reflection in the champagne tower. “Same difference, when it works.”

I laughed. He didn’t.

Beneath the chandeliers, his gold looked earned. Up close, it looked like armor.

When the room relaxed, Sage reached for my hand and brought my to a funder.

He began, “This is my date…” .

I moved, “Nyra Nox” taking the man’s hand, steady as smoke. “Nice to meet you.”

“Exotic name. Good job, my boy.” The man clapped Sage on the shoulder.

While they talked about metrics, I slipped away; token trophy mission complete.

The fragrance followed me to the corridor, sweet yet, stale.

“Hey, wait!” His voice sliced through the hum of generators.

I didn’t.

To be continued 

Waking Up #Goddess

I blink open, and the cosmos gasps,
every spirit since Genesis crowding my bedside
like curious cousins at a sleepover.

“Girl… what happened?” they whisper.
“You walked through centuries like stilettos on cobblestone
and didn’t trip once.”

I sip their spirits
Stretch for more
Yahweh winks,
Ma’at side-eyes,
and King Cepheus and Queen Cassiopeia doodle heart emojis across our history.

“How you do it?” they press.
“How you still do it?” #mustbealien

I giggle —
the sound of an ancestor finally finding Wi-Fi.
I shrug —
the shrug that makes empires tremble.
I yawn —
and three galaxies blush.

Because being goddess
means being the blessing the most high wished me to be.
Oh happy day. To finally play.
Waking up unbothered,
snatching joy out the ether,
and calling it Monday.

And the spirits?
They write in their diaries:
“Day 919. She rose again. #cuteaf”

📜 Sidebar: Why Ethiopia is Written in the Stars
In ancient Greek mythology, Cassiopeia was Queen of Ethiopia and Cepheus her king. Let’s return myth back to roots: Ethiopia as cradle, cosmos, and crown. Their daughter Andromeda was chained to a rock and forced to wait for a “Greek Prince” to rescue her. ✨ She became “constellations” for astrologist to follow.

The cradle of divinity was always meant to be free.

Diving into a December Detox

I’ve been reading a book called Results by Jamie Smart. At first I thought it was going to help me find some management techniques to ensure that when I work with small businesses or large enterprises, the goals they set bring provable results.

Woops! Judged a book by a cover, but it seems the universe had bigger plans for me in mind. The book Results was actually about how our minds, our very thoughts, can get in our own way of finding the true innate results we can deliver as humans. *Mind blown* It seems simple, but this concept really attempts to get the reader to accept that clarity to a human is as real and pervasive as gravity is on this earth. We did not invent gravity, it just is, and we discovered and name it. We do not create our own clarity, the clarity is there, and sometimes our thoughts can keep us from tapping into it.

As someone who loveeeesssss to think, I still struggle to embrace this concept, but I would like to get closer to stepping into clarity. As a challenge for myself, and this blog, I am going to be embarking on a detox in December. As a way to clear some of the “contaminated” or even “cluttered” areas of my life. I’ve put together some areas to detox and hope that writing will help me commit to this journey over the next 21-days.

So here is a list of 21-day detox ideas that I will be building together.

  • 21 Clean Eating Detox by Fit BodyRock (Food)
  • 21 Day Yoga Challenge by Yoga with Uliana (Fitness)
  • 21 Mind Makeover Challenge by Gravity Life Coaching (Mind)
  • 21 Day Digital Detox Checklist by But First Joy.Com (Tech)

While there are a dozen of ways to detox, I hope these areas hit on the global areas of the self! Here are the details on some.

21-Day Clean Eating Detox by Fit Body Rock

Source: https://www.bodyrock.tv/
From: https://www.bodyrock.tv/ Found on Pinterest

I am choosing level 2, since I am fairly close to level 1 on this. Giving up dairy products will be hard especially during egg nog season!!

Source: https://www.yogawithuliana.com/

I love yoga and it’s been months since I’ve done it in a dedicated way. By releasing the stress and tension from my body, I can definitely open up space for clarity!

21-Day Mind Makeover Challenge by Gravity Life Coaching

Honest, I found most of these challenges on Pinterest 🙂 This one seems to lead to https://www.erinsonlinecoachingcamp.com/

Finally the 21-Day Digital Detox challenge! It’s easy to say that social media can be distracting, especially when you’ve worked in marketing or adjacent to marketing for years! Now that some of my responsibilities are coming to an end I feel comfortable deleting some social media apps, even if its just for a week! I just love this one from But First, Joy.com

From:https://butfirstjoy.com/

So that lays it out! From December 1st to December 21st, I’ll be retreating into myself and practicing these challenges!

Have you ever done a detox? What would you recommend?

Here’s a sneak peek of Week 1, which is underway!

One More Move: Carry Over the Good

2020 has come to a close.

Did anyone else find themselves on what seemed like a journey that equates to one of the great Epic novels? At times, my energy was completely focused on just making it through the day.

I am sure our shared experience will be one for the history books.

Now as 2021 approaches, we’ve settled into the chaos. This is one of our most precious abilities as humans, our capability to adapt. With this re-alignment, one key value and attitude that will carry over into the new year will be: Gratitude.

This year felt filled with unmet desires. Yet, gratitude is the gift that allows us to have absolutely enough in our lives. When we focus on understanding how we are being fulfilled anything else becomes decorative and not essential. The abundant substance of life, is here all around us, and much of it is fulfilled, for free, in the nakedness of the present time.

So with this, I share my gratitude with and for you.

What good will you carry over into the next year?

See you in 2021 🙂

Fueling Success Over the Long Haul

man sitting facing fire in pot during night

Photo by Jeremy Bishop on Pexels.com

 
January was a longggg month wasn’t it? 
 
At the end of it, how did you feel? Accomplished? Like every goal will be attained in 2020?
 
Or, did you feel drained? Lost and stuck in a swirl of wanting to achieve something and perfectly productive-less procrastination
 
Many of us have experienced both sides of this coin. Yet, the more experienced of us know that we can choose to strive for either accomplishment or ignore it. If you want success over the long term, you should definitely aim to choose the former over the latter. 
 
But how?
 
How can you maintain the long journey to finally arrive at your place of success? 
 
Here are some simple, yet critical ways to to do this. 
 
Give yourself some grace 
 
The analogy of a baby learning to walk is a prime example of the success journey. Babies start out with no concept, desire, and acknowledgement of their power to walk. Yet, overtime they begin to realize the power within them to achieve the thing their parents do with ease. There is a natural unfolding of their journey of discovery that they can and should try to walk, and then that they should master it. From there, they allow the process of trying, testing, failing, and trying again to take place. There is not fail once and give up until the next year. It is a natural part of doing something you had no idea how to do before. Ever fail, comes with knowledge of what to do or not do next.
 
Like a baby learning to walk, your big goals for your self must unfold. You will try, test, fail, and try again, but each time you take action toward your goal you will be one step closet to mastery. For this tip, hold the mantra “Failure is but a step on my journey to success.” If you are failing more often, it means you are taking more actions to reach the pinnacle point that is on your path. 
 
Have a “Trigger”
 
Ever have a goal that you’re consistent with and then BAM! Something happens and you completely fall into the cycle of procrastination again? A possible solution for this is to have a trigger. Pre-plan an action, a date, and word that gets you back on track with your main goal. Example, your goal is to write more for your blog (writing to myself lol), then craft a trigger that gets you to focus on it. Like on the first Monday of the month, I will write a draft no matter what! Or on pay day, I will check my next blog idea for writing, or before I enter the gym I will write a blog draft in the car. Diving into specific triggers that work for you will require deep thought and authenticity about your time, schedule, needs, and motivators. With time you will know exactly what to do/say/feel to get yourself back on track. 
 
Take 15!
 
If you’ve read this blog. You know I am a fan of the 15-minute timer. If it is all you have to do is overwhelming to the point of procrastination paralysis. Set a time for 15 minutes and do what you can within that time frame. Then STOP and reward yourself for getting things done. 

Challenge Your Habits 

 

Happy 2019 y’all!

This year is almost over and all I feel is in awe. Awe for humanity, the amazing friendships and experiences I’ve built, and all the possibilities that lie ahead. 

How would you summarize your 2019? 

I am switching on my once monthly blog again!

2020’s theme word is: Challenge.

We’ll be sharing challenges all year to push ourselves, but first, December.

December ZInga Hart (1)

I’ve always had an interesting relationship with December. It’s either the last month to get it all in or get it all out. Over the past few years, my perspective has changed. Years no longer start and stop, like a circle is all a continuance. This shift has allowed for me to not treat December like an all-or-nothing month, but as away to sharpen my skills a little bit more. That said, it is still a great month for building on something you always wanted to work on. 

Get this, a lot of people wait until January to make the next big change! I’m proposing you use December to ease into change. What is it you want to change by next December? Build a business, write a book, invent something, get fit? Whatever it is, don’t wait until January 1, because that’s when resolutions start. Start today. Start slowly and build up to full speed ahead in January. 

How would you baby step into your big 2020 goal?

December ZInga Hart

If you’re unsure, one practice is to build or break any habit at all. So the one more move December is to: Build or Break a Habit that supports your 2020 goals

How to Build or Break a Habit:

  1. Decide exactly what you want to tackle. If you have an overwhelming habit, break it off into a digestible actions. For instance, one day I hope to give up dairy completely. Instead of going all out, I start with giving up milkshakes and pure milk products for the next 30 days. Instead of eliminating ALL dairy ingredients, we ease into the biggest culprits. If you are trying to break a habit, work to replace it with a healthier habit. Following the example above, one might go: instead of choosing milkshakes, I’ll make smoothies.
  2. Commit. A habit for one day, is hardly a habit at all. To really incorporate the habit change into you life you must commit for at least 22 days, preferably 30. You could do more than 100 days or anywhere in between. The goal is to give yourself some length of time for the change to take hold.

  3. Attach your habit to current habits. Find cues or triggers that you can use to remind you of your habit change. For instance, someone who wants to work out more, might find workouts that fit in between their favorite TV show break or during their lunch break.

  4. Plan for setbacks. Building a new habit may result in going back to the old one. We are what we repeatedly do, so forgive yourself if your path to change leads you back to familiar behavior. Find ways to acknowledge and accept your behavior, while nicely reminding yourself of your commitment. If you’re doing this in December, you could say, “This is a practice run for January” and get right back on track.

  5. Reset everyday and reward yourself for achievement. Whether you make a mistake or not, consider every day in your time period a fresh start. If you make it through the day and achieve the habit you are building, find little ways to celebrate it.

My sister and I will be going over our habits for December on CultivatedSisters. If you’re interested in the challenge calendar join our group to download the tool.

Draw Out The Details

I recently revamped my monthly meetups with Cultivated Sisters. We switched from lesson-based format to more of mastermind format. This guaranteed we delved into everyone’s strategies towards success.

One shared theme was keeping consistent when the task list doesn’t create itself. This is a skill entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders must master to make progress in their goals. When no one but you is running the show, you must be able to give yourself action items, otherwise you might be stuck swirling in a sea of hopes and dreams, instead of swimming to success’ shore.

When we explored this idea forward I realized my knee jerk reaction to create a to-do list, but this  wasn’t actually getting at the source of the problem. What we needed was the Source of the to do list. The foundation from where all those tasks blossom while you’re pursuing your own goals and dreams.

Here’s one  more move  to help you get closer to that list you are looking for:

Drag out the details.

A lot of my people in my circle definitely want to put projects into play and if getting it done seems like a barrier sometimes it may be due to a lack of clarity and one exercise that helps bring about clarity is being verify specific about the outcomes you hope to achieve.

Here are three exercises that can help bring about clarity.

First, figure out what’s in it for you.

Knowing what motivates you and drives you to put this project into play for no reason other than because you want to spend time on it gives you a source and a reason as reward for whatever task you’re about to take on. Sit down and truthfully drag out your personal vision of what the best day would look like for you if this project was fully in bloom.

What would your role be? 
What would you be doing?
Who would be on your team?
Where would you be located? 

These details matter and  will be the fuel for your motivation.
Next would be to figure out who you serve.

If you are in the passion project area of starting a business or non-profit no matter what you must have a customer on the other end.  Someone you serve someone has to buy or use your services in a sustainable way.

Drag out the details of the person you serve.

Why are they coming to you?
What is the problem you’re solving for them?
How did this problem come to be?
How do you solve this problem?
What is their hobbies, likes, and dislikes?
What do they think about in their free time?
Where do they go to find out new information?
How did they find you?
How did they connect with you?

Building all the ways you connect, know, and serve your ideal client or customer is a key  tool for your nonprofit or business organization. It allows you to craft  not only your mission, but also your message to the world and those that would want your help, product, or solution.
Finally leverage your time by dragging out the details of your project. Think about the next big move that is it going to move your project forward from where it is now to where you want it to be. What is the barrier you need to overcome today to take a step forward on whatever you’re working on?  Write that down using whatever tools you can and then look at that project and list all the steps it takes to make this project outcome happen.
Dragging out the details of the project can give  you a tangible view of progress. As a bonus set the smallest amount of time that you think you could truly work on your business or project and I mean be generous! For instance my least amount of time to work on a goal is 15 minutes, but you should choose what ever amount works for you. Then find the optimal space where  you could squeeze that time in into your calendar. If you’re the type of person who wakes up early can you squeeze it in in the early hours. If you’re the type of person that has a lot of free time after work where could you squeeze it in there. How does this project fit into your schedule on a daily basis or weekly basis?Choose whatever counts as consistent to you. Find those little in-between spaces  in your day where you can work on your business.

So that’s our One More Move for this month- Drag Out Those Details.

Stay tuned for our next meetup in Akron, OH last Monday’s of the month!

Join our Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/cultivatedsisters

One More Move: Let Out Your Excuses

2018 was a year of introspection for me.

A new career, personal commitments, and community projects made me step back and assess what I was doing. I took time away from writing and  I focused on the internal and external challenges that I had to recognize and explore at the roots. I learned my main priority needed to shift towards projecting my truth into the world. Yet, I know my most truthful voice comes through my writing. Sure, for 2019, I set goals to communicate with my teams more and to make more videos, but deep down I could never escape my calling to write.

What is a part of your calling you could never escape?

Not sure what your calling is?

With time and observation you will hear your calling  within you or see it in the actions that you take. Yet, some of us do hear our calling and then we find ourselves avoiding, ignoring, or neglecting it. We fill our days with excuses to do other things besides what the universe gently asks of us.

So the One More Move challenge is to: Let Out Your Excuses.

 

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Notice I didn’t say Let Go (that’s another move), but to let them out. My mentor suggested I read The Goddess Warrior Training by HeatherAsh Amara. She discusses the importance of knowing the stories we lean on everyday to explain why we are the way we are. Knowing what those stories are is the first step to take before attempting to transform them. Listen to yourself throughout the week and observe where you stop yourself from taking action or where you make up an excuse for not moving forward on something . Hear those stories and write them down.

At the end of the week, look at those stories and ask do those stories still serve my growth? 

Your stories (including your excuses) are powerful tools to influence how you act in the moment. When you begin to identify how you use your stories on regular basis, you can begin to build the awareness that allows you to leverage them to build your progress towards success.

So want to hear more about 2018? Check out Cultivated Sisters group built for real women who aim to pursue their passion in an authentic way.

 

30 Things to Accomplish Before 30

This will be a fun list for me.

So, thirty is eyeing me hard.

As it approaches, I mostly think…age doesn’t matter as much as it did when I was 16, but the magnitude of adulthood grows heavier by the day. Friends I grew up with are now a part of raising our future. College buddies are becoming local leaders. Every day,  I sense that now, more than ever, my involvement is needed in something bigger than myself.

That being said…
adulting is hard.

The pressures of leadership, the threads of consequential outcomes, and navigating the endless politics of people, and while just maintaining the basics of life could have oneself feeling stretched.  Our entrenched responsibilities pulling our energy and focus away from our long-term vision of success. Making it so easy to lose focus on our most honest desires.

When I start to lose focus…I make a list.

This list will be a mix of fun things and things I should have mastered by the time I reach 30.

Think something’s missing? Let me know in the comments.

So for me, these are the 30 things I want to accomplish or master before I turn 30.

1. Accomplish: Taking a girl’s trip
2. Visiting a friend in a foreign city
3. Go to Trinidad
4. Read fiction books again (3 before 30)
5. Finish 2nd draft of the novel I started
6. Have a good parenting routine
7. Have a consistent quality beauty regimen
8. Improve my morning and evening routine
9. Memorize an at-home exercise routine
10. Memorize a yoga set
11. Drink mainly water
12. Pay off 1/2 my personal debt
13. Follow a house maintenance and development plan
14. Boost Emergency Fund
15. Have a quality capsule wardrobe
16. Work with self-critic and turn it into positive
17. Visualize my big goals every day
18. Meet more people
19. Maintain a quality circle of friends
20. Look into the family tree
21. Visit family I haven’t seen in years
22. Buy another investment property
23. Be a better baker
24. Be a better-informed voter
25. Write the first draft of my story
26. Face my fear of a video camera
27. Take a parent to dinner (or both)
28. Do something random
29. Take a self-care weekend
30. Complete this list 🙂